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Mekalia's avatar

As someone who has worked almost exclusively with kids on the spectrum and someone who dearly loves family of my own on the spectrum as well- I know these feelings on a basis of being a sister, an aunt, a godmother and friend. I can't imagine the added stress, worry and even grief that can come when you're in the parenting role.

Keegan is a very special kid. He is so intuitive and kind, funny, sassy and affectionate. Most of all he is happy and he spreads joy wherever he goes. I have been honored to be a small part of the team over the last 5 months. I don't say this lightly, but the connection you have with Keegan is so remarkable- I've never seen anything like it in all of my years in childcare. Even without words, there I'd a natural communication that transpires between you two in such a profound way. He seems to feel safer and happier with you than anyone else on the planet and that should speak immeasurably in terms of how wonderful of a job you've done. It's a long hard journey, and there is grief involved every step of the way. That grief is healthy and normal. It means you want the best for that little boy every day of his life . And though it may look differently than you had hoped or expected, I hope you know that you and Keegs mom have given him every tool, service, resource and opportunity to thrive and feel safe, protected and loved. He is growing so quickly and I'm certain he will continue to make leaps and bounds all thanks to parents that took the hand they were given and gave it everything they have.

Thank you for sharing this peice of your story. Your writing is incredible and I'm so glad I got the chance to read this.

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Sull, wow. You have me alternating between tears and pride, as your weekly missives usually do. My tears are for the how life seemingly indiscriminately places incredible challenges upon us and can constantly knock us over. No reason...you get "X", good luck while someone else does not. Everyone has something they are dealing with, yet outwardly we all appear "fine".

Your last paragraph makes me proud to know you and consider you a great friend. Compassion, protection, always doing what needs to be done...you are an amazing man. I have no words to make anything better for Keegan, nor can I imagine what he and you endure. But, you too should know that you and YOUR FAMILY are loved, respected and valued. I cannot truly fathom the challenges, but I believe that Keegan will have his best possible life because he has Tom Sullivan for his dad and Jake Sullivan for his brother.

Not sure any of my crappy writing makes sense, but just wanted to say Love ya Sull-Coach

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