Great point about having a line ready… Just yesterday I was heading out of Nashville and the hotel was valet only for your car ($40/day). I tipped each time $5 on the stay.. but the last day I put my bags in the trunk and by time I did that the valet guy (in his 20s) had moved on to the next car. I did a light jog to catch up to him and handed him a crisp tenner. He didn’t even act like he saw me, not a word, and shoved it in his pocket and turned around to continue working. Thought about what I could have said for 3 hours and 45 mins driving back to atlanta. Always have a line ready
“You can have it; clearly you need a shot more than we do.” But in the case of the door (or the tip as above) I tend to act as if the person had behaved appropriately and say, in the sunniest voice I can muster, “You’re welcome; have a great one.” Or “No problem at all--just pay it forward!”
I find the key to the shaming lies in not being snarky, just like general goodwill. Once someone said “what did you just say?” And I repeated myself, but added “I thought you said thank you.”
Sage wisdom: You hold the door open because you are good and kind and have feet and arms that work. Expect nothing and when someone says thanks? It’s frosting.
Great point about having a line ready… Just yesterday I was heading out of Nashville and the hotel was valet only for your car ($40/day). I tipped each time $5 on the stay.. but the last day I put my bags in the trunk and by time I did that the valet guy (in his 20s) had moved on to the next car. I did a light jog to catch up to him and handed him a crisp tenner. He didn’t even act like he saw me, not a word, and shoved it in his pocket and turned around to continue working. Thought about what I could have said for 3 hours and 45 mins driving back to atlanta. Always have a line ready
HAHAHAH. This is exactly it. Thanks JR!
The door thing always drives me nuts… I always yell “you’re welcome” loud enough for them and anyone else around them to hear…
“You can have it; clearly you need a shot more than we do.” But in the case of the door (or the tip as above) I tend to act as if the person had behaved appropriately and say, in the sunniest voice I can muster, “You’re welcome; have a great one.” Or “No problem at all--just pay it forward!”
You can have it! love it.
I love a version of you're welcome or don't mention it or anytime. Always a winner.
I find the key to the shaming lies in not being snarky, just like general goodwill. Once someone said “what did you just say?” And I repeated myself, but added “I thought you said thank you.”
Sage wisdom: You hold the door open because you are good and kind and have feet and arms that work. Expect nothing and when someone says thanks? It’s frosting.
And please: Do as I say, not as I do.
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